Portsmouth nail pro: What I learned from mental health struggles during pregnancy

Laura Gilbert-Anderson of Basic Witch Nails shares her maternal mental health experiences and what they have taught her…

I was diagnosed with a liver condition during my first pregnancy, so my baby and I had to be closely monitored. If test results weren’t good, it meant days spent at the hospital and I was forced to cancel clients’ appointments at short notice. I carried a lot of guilt for letting them down, and became incredibly anxious about my health, as well as that of my baby and business. I was in a vicious circle of doing too much to make up for cancelled time, then having to stop because I’d overworked myself.

Anxiety has been an issue since my early teens and causes me to be critical of my work and interactions, which prevents me from feeling present. While pregnant, my anxiety wore me down and I isolated myself from family and friends. After a particularly intense day in hospital, I realised I didn’t need to carry the weight on my own.

The pressure to feel constant joy during pregnancy or as a new mum is common, but it’s OK to voice when you find things tough.

Building a support network is key and honesty is always the best policy: for yourself, those around you and clients. I’ve been lucky to have a supportive circle of friends and my husband, as well as a wonderful midwife and GP. Reaching out to a doctor may be scary, but medical professionals can support you. Help looks different to different people and charity, Maternal Mental Health Alliance, can offer guidance to suit your needs.

During my second pregnancy, I ensured that I talked regularly about how I was feeling, and I had a better understanding of the signs of poor mental health. It’s important to recognise those feelings and give yourself a break when things feel heavy.

What I’d tell my past self:

Pause and let yourself feel and breathe. Pushing through doesn’t help anyone; you’ll only crash and feel unable to reach out for the help you need. It might be uncomfortable, but sometimes it’s best to address how you’re feeling.

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